Hi,
I suppose I should begin this with a few details about myself. My name is Suzie, I’ve worked at a domestic violence shelter for just over a year. While domestic violence is no laughing matter- a house full of women certainly is! For obvious reasons I won’t be revealing where I work or any details that may reveal true identities. Each woman and child has their own story, some worse than others, but all experiencing a trauma. I’ll be trying to update this weekly with some crazy tale of what has happened in the shelter or a story one of them has shared.
I’ll start with how we operate. The shelter is a house, in the middle of a typical neighborhood. It’s location is a poorly kept secret. It’s been in the same location for 30+ years, so in a town of less than 50k people, at some point people have donated to us, stayed with us, or known someone who has. We run off of donations, grants, and government funding. We have a board of directors who oversee major decisions in our operation. In what used to be the formal living room, just across from the dining turned storage room, we have our office. During normal business hours we have a counselor, case manager, shelter manager, legal advocate, and the executive director. There is an employee there 24 hrs a day, always watching the cameras. Women living here are required to meet weekly with the counselor and case manager in order to take their first steps toward independence. Shelter manager mainly deals with shopping for the house (groceries, cleaning supplies, etc.) but also arranges fundraising events. The shelter has 7 rooms ranging in size from 1 bed to 4+. We have a playroom for the kids, which can also serve as a handicapped accessible room if necessary.
In order to become a resident, women call here, we gather their information, information about their abuser, whether they are bringing kids with them and the situation they need away from. Many women are nervous to provide abuser information for fear they will be upset, but it’s for our records only – in other words it doesn’t go to the police. The women are required to provide abuser details in order to prove domestic violence. We have a lot of homeless that know about us – I guess we provide better accommodations than the city mission/homeless shelter. We are specifically an emergency homeless shelter. People must be in fear for their safety for us to accept them. It’s a hard thing to judge in a 5- 10 minute conversation over the phone.
We have rules for the residents, a 9 o’clock curfew for their safety, zero tolerance alcohol and drug policy, as well as household chores they share. There is also a three strike policy in place. We encourage the residents to go to the magistrate and get a DVP or Domestic Violence Protective order – restraining order. We provide 3 well balanced meals per day – the residents don’t always love that, but they’re allowed to bring in and cook what they choose.
That covers most of the basics. I’m sure I’ll think of more later, but those details will likely come in handy in future stories.
Thanks for reading, hope you’ll visit this page again 🙂
Suzie